When the Heart Has a Home, the Home Has a Heart

Or so the saying goes………

Mine physically right now is in one location however parts are scattered at the opposite ends of the world to where my adult children live!

In one way this makes sense to me why I’d be so scattered and thrown off kilter right now.  This is a new phenomenon for me.  I guess my heart is thawing more as I grieve the loss of connection with them.

A connection that was renewed and strengthened as both were home for a good part of the holidays and the New Year celebrations.  Truly a first and was a treasure and a delightful gift to spend so much time with them instead of the customary week.

Funerals the Catalyst for Homecomings

It has been a while since we were all together as a family in this way.  It would be for the funerals of their grandparents, a very sad occasion.  A bitter sweet one at that.  Indeed, you realize, it is times like these, the importance of support and the bonds that hold families together.

Granted, this time it was a major challenge that brought us together again but thankfully not a family death.   We did however do what families do, close ranks, come together.  We’d put our collective heads together to help and support one another.  There was lots of laughter.

As a grief guide and mentor, I am acutely aware that grief is not only reserved for death but occurs for many other losses also.  It is there for any endings.

I knew this would be the case as we ended our time together.   During each goodbye as they left to pick up their own lives, I knew I’d be left with a sadness and a sore heart.  These feelings and emotions I know only too well to be the signature of grief.

How do I cope?  Well, I allow the tears to flow and the happy memories to drive the tears. I acknowledge and allow the tears and sadness to flow.  They never last too long.  Then I go about my daily chores until a reminder of their visit comes to mind and off I go again.

I welcome the grief as I know only too well where there is grief then growth is not far behind. I will learn to call those parts of my heart back to me once more to make my heart whole again.  Instead of sending pieces of my heart to be with them, I will send my love and energy instead.