A Healing Journey & Finding Life after Loss

A Healing Journey & Finding Life after Loss

When Death Happens

The last thing on my mind, was how would I find my life after this loss.  I didnt recognize that I was about to begin my own healing journey.  Those thoughts were  far from confused mind.  In that moment it was more important for me to find out how I could cope.  My healing journey and finding life after loss  would be part 3 in this journey of mine into grief.

The day dad died, I couldnt quite understand how outside the hospital the day was filling up with its “normal” that of “getting on with life”.  Right now, my life was anything but normal our life had stopped but everyone elses life continued.

Where was help when you needed it the most I thought.  I realized no one was coming to save us. I had to be the protector now for mum.  Up until this point it had been Dad’s job. Looking back, growing up both my parents had fiercely protected my sister and me to the point I really didn’t know how or what to do at this moment.  Dad had always been there to ask.

Figuring it out

Clearly, we weren’t prepared for what we would have to go through and face as a family or alone with our grief.  Somehow we muddled through.  We had to for there was no mentor or guide, it was a “figure it” out as you go along routine.

To begin with, there was help via the funeral folks but after that, we were very much alone.

For me, it was a struggle, I was overwhelmed by life, emotions, and feelings.  Alone, I would journey for a while until I did find help.  I was fortunate, with my nursing background I understood death but for the rest, it was my holistic friends I turned to and relied on to ease my pain.

How Others Heal

Over time I wondered, how did others heal and journey through their grief?   My quest began and would be answered only when I did my own research.  Frankly, many people didn’t.  During the search I read about people becoming stuck in their grief, pining and longing for their loved ones.  They would lose their vitality and their own lives as a result.  It was as if they too had died alongside their loved one.  This was tragic.

There were many more people like me who do eventually find their way back to life.  Their lives forever changed as they learned to adapt and grow in ways they couldn’t have expected.  Some would go on to create legacies or help others during their time of grief.

In the next group, these people grieved but got on with their lives fairly quickly after death.  Looking at their characteristics it was noted they were generally happy with their lives and their work fulfilled them.  Yes, they had deeply loved the person they lost but somehow, they didn’t lose themselves in their grief.

Death is about Finding You

It was then I recognized as I was doing my own healing work that the death itself became less about his death and more about finding me.

During our lives, there are many times we will be faced with many challenges and how to deal with them either brings you to your knees or you find a way to get up.  It is in the getting up that so many lessons are learned along the way that contributes to growth.  Life is structured this way and as humans, we are meant to be growing.  This growth then becomes one of the head and heart learning.  We need both if we are to develop wisdom and compassion.

Just knowing so many grieving a loss can lose their way or are unable to move on with their lives.  I wanted to let you know that you can heal your grief and go on to live an amazing life.

I understand first hand what it is like to lose a loved one.  This has taught me the value of empathy and compassion.  Over the years, I have developed tools designed to help and guide you.  If you recognize yourself in any of the categories described above.  Please let’s connect so I can share more about what I do.

Until then


Addiction, Shame & Grief

Whenever we’re faced with challenges in our lives, it can be easy to give up.  Its a choice, it’s your willingness to work through them and heal.  It is then your greatest gifts and passions show up.  You don’t have to hit the proverbial “rock bottom” before deciding this isn’t working. It can be one event that triggers the need for some other direction in life to be taken.

In this interview with Sarah Roberts we cover…

How Sarah’s need for connection, to fit in led to addiction.  Her recovery through healthy food and entering grief when her dad, mentor, and supporter died. Sarah Roberts, a TV host, and producer speaks openly and from the heart, about subjects many find hard to talk about.

In this open and candid interview with Sarah, we delved into these topics:

  1. How and why her passion, cooking and creating using real, whole foods began.
  2. Her purpose is Sarah’s successful One Bite at a Time (OBAAT) coaching helping others find freedom from food, sugar, alcohol, and body image issues that have kept them stuck.
  3. Shame helped her create her own healthy life-style and how speaking about her own shame gives others permission to own their own.
  4. We are wired for the need to connect and what this need is creating in our children in our social media reality
  5. Sarah’s own journey with grief when her dad died suddenly.  How she and her brother have coped differently over his passing
  6. Her thoughts on the statement readily used in Society “you never get over your grief”
  7. Good self-care is necessary especially when you are struggling with your appetite.  Some suggestions of what foods to include in your diet and why.

To listen to this episode in the Let’s Talk About Grief Podcast – you can from Apple Podcast download it here 

or here if you prefer Spotify


Closed Group – Finding Your Life After Loss

New Closed Facebook Support & Mentorship Group

Finding Life After Loss is an online support & mentorship group to show you the healing power of grief and the ways it reconnects you to your life.  The purpose is for you to begin seeing and believing what is possible as you journey to find your new life after any loss.

By joining this group, you’ll have an opportunity to learn and understand the grieving process and how to navigate through it.   Each month a different topic of information will be presented through our Facebook Live sessions to offer you this guidance.

With the knowledge you’ll gain, the guidance and the support you’ll receive within the group will soon have you finding your inner harmony and joy that is currently eluding you.

Your Membership Includes

Personal workbooks, tools, and tips are available within the Facebook group.  You’ll also have an opportunity to practice the new information as we move through each topic presented.  The information material is available in the membership area and can be downloaded before each session.  These are yours to keep.

Within the group, there is an opportunity for live coaching during the Q & A’s and if you have any questions, these can be posted ahead of time or during our Q & A time together.

The Sessions Themselves

With each monthly Facebook session, you will obtain new knowledge and gain personal insights around the subject of grief and how to move on.  Each session is 1 hr long and via Facebook Live. Two weeks later there will be a monthly Q & A session.

We will be discussing a different topic each month.  A small sample of topics covered is listed below. If at any time you have questions or concerns about where you are in your journey or what is coming up for you, you may post in the group or directly to me.  The site is monitored and I will be able to help you with your questions and concerns.

Topics Covered

    1. Looking at Grief Through the Lens of Change
    2. Tools & Tips for Painful Thoughts
    3. Your grief Wheel – How Does it Work?
    4. Finding Balance – What it Means to You
    5. Understand the Neutral Zone
    6. Physiology of Grief & Its Effects
    7. The Critic Within & Its Sabotaging Ways
    8. New Beginnings – Working Towards
    9. Finding and Discovering Your New Life
    10. What Matters Most & Creating a Plan

Discover the Benefits

By joining and actively participating in the group, you will realize the many benefits which include but are not limited to:

  1. Understanding and belonging, friendships and feeling supported in the closed Facebook Group
  2. Learn how being supported and not isolating helps your healing journey
  3. Discover the grieving process and how it affects you, gives you the knowledge that helps to lessen your fear
  4. What grief and guilt are about and that they can diminish when you understand them better
  5. Discover how changing your thoughts and beliefs you can bring about healing sooner
  6. Find out how to lessen the resistance and allow for your healing journey
  7. Know what can hold you back and receive tools to show you how to move through sticky moments
  8. Connect to yourself fully through the exercises and tools you will receive
  9. Learn what your needs are and why it is important to ask or know how to get your needs met
  10. When you learn not to fear death you discover how to live a much fuller life

Who is This Group For?

If you have experienced a loss and are struggling to cope; you are not actively grieving but life feels dull and grey.  You are unsure of what to do next?  Your life has come to a crossroad. You have difficulty making decisions; frequently feel overwhelmed; perhaps are struggling at work or it no longer holds your interest.  Activities that brought you joy no longer do. You’re tired of feeling drained or being constantly sick; family and friends are telling you it is time to move on; You know there must be more to life than this.

I have recognized and valued the support and mentorship I received when I experienced loss followed by the intense and sometimes distressing emotions and feelings that are lumped together in one-word Grief.

There is much misinformation circulating and being passed along that isn’t helpful and you’ll discover for yourself why it isn’t.  Society has ill-prepared us for when death, divorce or other losses are experienced.  Often it is this misinformation that can keep you stuck in your grief.

Through my health background in nursing and grief coaching I saw how the body is capable of miraculous healing, so why not in healing our grief also?

I believe no one need suffer for years endlessly isolated and made to feel like an outcast by family or friends because you are still grieving.

Here you will find like-minded supportive people as you navigate your journey through grief.

Interested and would like to join?

If you are ready and want to understand and discover a healthier way to move through your grieving time, please sign up now for this monthly online support & mentoring group Finding Your Life After Loss. You can do at anne@reconnect-from-grief.com

This is an opportunity for you to get support, be seen, be validated and acknowledged for who and where you are in your journey and be with like-minded people who are compassionate.  This is a no-judgment zone.

Your investment is $47 monthly and you can cancel any time. You can join in at any time, the information is available together with the online video’s right on the Facebook group site. You can work at your own pace after the information has been presented.

Interested but are unsure whether this is right for you or you have further questions?  Then please get in touch and we can discuss this further. Email me at anne@reconnect-from-grief.com

I look forward to traveling with you as you journey and discover yourself and Your Life After Loss.

Thank you and here’s to your new beginnings, full of infinite possibilities that will take you to your independence and freedom.




My Best Friend’s Funeral

My Best Friend’s Funeral

How I Supported my best friend through her end of life transition – Jane Jackson Soul Coach and Energy Practioner (to read more about Deborah & Jane’s journey together here is the link)

When Faced with Difficulty

What do you do, when your best friend is diagnosed with MS and possibly has two years to live?  This was what Jane was faced with and this interview is about their journey together.  Jane did what you would expect of a good friend, she jumped in to support her in so many ways.  Helping her with daily living, supporting, planning her funeral together and dealing alone with the rawness of it all.

This journey was an emotionally charged one, instead of closing down they remained open, vulnerable and available to each other.  Jane never judged her friend or tried to talk her out of it when she heard she was choosing suicide to end her life.  For Deborah, wanted to leave on her terms and not be defined by her illness as she progressively got weaker.

However, the is an interesting and heartwarming twist to their story.  One that will have you questioning “Is the choice to die really ours to make” or is there something more powerful at work here.”

Listen now to their story.


Summer went out in a Tornado

How was your Summer?  I do hope you were able to get away for some downtime and recharge?  It certainly was a hot one……..

A Friday Night to Remember

The last breath of Summer left us during the storm last Friday evening ushered out by 6 Tornado’s here in the Ottawa region.  The result of the storm plunged many into chaos as the power went out in homes.  across the region.  This was a small inconvenience compared to the people whose homes were destroyed by the storm.  The winds tore off rooftops, downed trees, and power lines, scattering debris over roads impeding travel and rescue efforts.

Neighborhoods Destroyed

It would take several days for the extent of the damage to reach the public’s awareness.  When it did, those watching were totally stunned and shocked by the devastation in many areas around our region. I’m certain there were a few hands over mouths as they took in the pictures they were seeing.  Trees on top of cars, rooftops gone leaving their contents visible and exposed.  Large trees on top of family dwellings.  Large power poles snapped in half downing the wires they were carrying.  One main power station feeding so many homes in the area was just another casualty of the tornado.

Grieving Enters

I couldn’t help thinking of how this external event could be linked to grief.  A death happens and throws everything into chaos. The once familiar becomes unfamiliar and how we mourn for what was.  A similar picture was unfolding.  Many were looking forward to TGIF, cooking super and relaxing at the end of the workweek, except for many there was no power and for others, there was no longer a home.

How quickly we can take people and places for granted.  In a blink of an eye, it can be taken from us and we are truly powerless.

The Clean-Up Begins

It is not just the homes that will need rebuilding or tearing down but the clearing of so many damaged trees.  The landscape is forever changed.  Everyday living last week meant restocking of fridges, and freezers after throwing out wasted food.  The rebuilding of their lives begins.  How did people cope knowing they would soon have to return to work?  How could you possibly be productive when your life is in chaos?

When a death occurs, you remain busy, stoic powering through the endless tasks and then when it is over you discover you’re not coping well, you are in mourning.  This is what those individuals affected by such loss will be experiencing.  The effects are not always apparent in the early days, however, once the shock and busyness wear off many will require close monitoring.  For signs of PTSD, severe stress and mourning.  This is when they will need support.  After the army of volunteers have left leaving them to cope on their own.

Reach out and Support

Just as first responders were there helping, grief counselors were also present.  Advising those affected to speak about what happened and to ensure they take care of themselves.  Good advice, however, when you are extremely stressed as they will be, it is hard to settle down.  Sleep when you are extremely stressed is normally the first to be disrupted and is so needed.  They may be unable to relax and feel agitated.  Making decisions may even prove a challenge.

If you know someone affected by the events of last week, please take time and invite them for coffee with you.   Take time to allow them to share their story with you.  No need to fix, just listen and acknowledge what they say.   This simple act can be healing.  Please don’t talk about your experience or share stories of someone you know.  This is not helpful.  Just listen.  If you don’t know what to say “say that”.   The important step is to allow them to talk and share.

I do hope you and your family were all safe and your power was restored quickly?

Take Time to Prepare

Truly how prepared are we for life’s challenges?

It takes something like mother nature to show us just how unprepared we may be.  Especially for those big events such as a death or loss that challenge us and stop us in our tracks. Much like the storm did.

This made me reflect on my mission to help others to not fear death and the grieving process that follows on its heels.  As a grief guide and coach, I am here to support and can help you understand the process so you will be prepared and know what to do.

Just as many people, I’m certain will be preparing to ensure they have certain supplies in place. Perhaps including a generator, definitely stocking up on candles or flashlights. A battery radio was recommended so you could be updated for the next time the lights go out!


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